Choosing a therapist when you’ve never been into a therapeutic relationship before can be a minefield. Not only is there such a mind boggling array of different styles form Cognitive Behavioural, to Psychodynamic, Hypnotherapy and person Centred Counselling, there’s also the growing number of other styles of therapy including spiritual elements such as mindfulness or meditation. Which one do you choose? Which person do you choose to deliver it?

The Therapist v the Therapy

Let’s take a look at music for example: imagine you could compare a version of Hallelujah sung by Britney Spears to a version by Tina Turner. Same song. Completely different feeling and delivery. This is the same with therapy. If you do not interview your potential therapist and trust your gut feeling, you could end up with an amazing name for the therapy but a therapist who cannot deliver that interpersonal connection that is 50% of the healing.

Horses for Courses

So what if all you can reach to right now, because of your own disappointing experiences in relationships, is a therapist who is safely superficial and not too challenging? Then of course, someone who doesn’t confront issues head on would be ideal as a stepping stone into your personal development journey. If however, you are looking for someone to really challenge your world view and take you a step further forward, however difficult that might be, then you will want a guide who works outside of the box. To find that person, you may have to interview a few.

Spiritual Therapy

Is there such a thing? I would say, probably not but there will be plenty of spiritual people. I don’t mean otherworldly, purple-clad druids but therapists who have undergone heaps of their own challenges and profoundly dealt with them. Once upon a time, tribal initiation ceremonies were all about meeting yourself in times of crises and understanding that, you alone, are responsible for how you feel and how you live.

However, most people in our modern society want to blame others for how they feel and how they live. This develops the ultimate energy draining, self perpetuating Matrix. Spread a blame, shame, fear and anger culture subliminally through social proof and media pressure and you get a helpless people who do not realise their own power. A therapist awake to their spirituality, is, in my opinion, just someone who realises their own power and has given up blaming others. This communicates unconsciously in the energetic field of a person and is instantly transmissible to others.

3 Dimensional therapy and the fifth element!

So if you are looking for a special person who ‘gets’ you and can guide you into the unknown, then perhaps I might be able to help. Hop over to ‘about me’ and see if you resonate with my story. As a personal journeyer through many scary seas of my own, I’ve developed a strong faith in life, a secure foundation in my own form, and an ability to see through your screens and facades so that I can help you too, become more centred and secure in your own minds and bodies.